That Flaw You Don’t Want Anymore

Letting Go …

You know it. I’m sure you do. You are just about to introduce yourself to someone and you think, I’m not good enough. You become aware of something in your past that was hurtful and embarrassing and somehow that makes you less valuable. At the current time you are unable to start a friendship with this new interesting person that could bring much happiness into your life. You remembered a flaw in the midst of your perfection.

Sharing your Feelings

Happiness runs in a circular motion.

Many of us struggle with our emotions. To share our feelings can be a great relief. Sharing feelings isn’t often taught. People are lucky to learn some options and choices related to their feelings. Even just making lists of our feelings can identify what’s going on for us and relieve some pressure.

Dancing Poems

Poetry is like sunshine.
© 2012 Kelly Babcock

To write a poem that helps people think through an issues is rewarding and motivating. To write a poem that helps people sense a touch of Heaven is also nice. To write poems that inspire others to write poems, now that is the first place ribbon.

Inner Parents

(Due to Holiday Monday my blog came out on Tuesday morning)

Put away the cheese. Straighten up the fridge. Be in by 10. Clean up the bathroom. Don’t eat anymore butter tarts. You reach a point where when you leave home it can be a relief. Finally, if you want you can eat from the peanut butter jar. You can have your music on late at night, and best of all you can talk on the phone whenever you want.

Don’t Judge Me Until You’ve Walked A Mile In My Shoes

Walk a mile in my shoes. Start by reading about my experience.
c 2012 Kelly Babcock

To have a label that drags you down is annoying. One label that I have had given to me is schizophrenia. It is hard enough to show you are worth something in this world, but to do so with a demeaning label like this is extra hard. When I cover it up or refer to it as the ‘s’ word or talk about my imagination or about the angels that talk then I hope you have some acceptance to this description of the condition.

Growing Up With Empowering Beliefs

When I was a kid we were driving to camp… my grandma was driving because my parents were away. When we had ten minutes left of the trip we decided we didn’t want to go. We were nervous and I had major butterflies in my tummy. We went anyway. It was really fun. We got to know lots of other kids. We got to sail, do archery, do crafts, swim, row, canoe and many other things. The best part was the wonderful camp-fires.

Her Stories

©2010 Kelly Babcock

We were up there, back stage, waiting for our turn to perform, repeating lines, mouthing words, going over and over our monolouges. Nervous anticipation wasn’t all that was in the air but a kind of magic that only comes on that final night when the audience is full and is with us as we presented our stories.

Enough of Decluttering; Use What you Have – (bonus post for April)

There are great works of literature helping us to discover how we can best declutter. We can have less. We can simplify. We can give our things to others in need. Basically we can live in an easier way with less stuff around us.  Okay. After we’ve done this it can seem a little desolate, a little empty, a little barren.

Camp Days Remembered

Say what you mean and mean what you say. 

We were all sitting around a campfire. Everyone was singing Cats In The Cradle and I had the feeling that this was a special moment but I didn’t have words to describe it, at that young age.

For me camp was about activities and candy and sleep outs and friends and having a good time. It wasn’t as stressful as working at a camp. So much of our day was planned for us, we just had to show up and try our best.

The hardest part was swimming lessons. There were cold days and we were still expected to go in the water. Sometimes we would pretend to be sick so we could skip swimming in that cold lake.

Yin and Yang; Stillness and Activity

Healing means coming to an understanding of an issue. Healing means living well despite problems. To me this involves consciously creating a balance in my life between activity and stillness.

The yin and yang flow is one of masculine and feminine. It is part of the day and night opposites of sunlight and moonlight. I want to discuss one aspect of this balance. This is the two states that include ’change’ and ‘staying the same’ as they relate to wellness. The greater natural world around us finds a balance and so can we!

A chronic illness can cause too much pain. Improving the patterns of health can mean adapting to change. Sometimes people may feel better to stay at the level of health they find themselves in even if they are quite sick. At other times they may feel strong enough and hopeful enough to try and increase their stamina, endurance and strength.

When is it time for change?

A person may go from fairly inactive to active. A person may start replacing sugar snacks with fruit. A person might rest a lot and then join a new choir. A person may read a lot and then participate in an acting club. Change can motivate, invigorate and stimulate us. For the person dealing with illness change becomes a little more complex as aches, pains, moods and stamina have to be taken into consideration. Sometimes it’s all one can do to just stay the same.

Health returns in seasons….

If it is like a Winter season in your life it may be time to try and move more slowly to protect the gains you have previously made and not make any big changes. It is good to move slowly to help you settle and stay with the progress you have made over the past while. Concentrating on keeping to a routine at this time and accomplishing the regular tasks is important. There is a rhythm to this kind of living that gives nourishment and strength. When you have a bad day you don’t have to think too hard because you know your daily schedule, you know what lies ahead.

As we feel more able to do things it may seem more like Spring. We do want to enjoy some of the fruits of our labour.  Some of us have worked so hard to become more well with medicine, good food, rest and nourishment. At this time it’s nice to introduce more activity into your life. For some, this may be adding exercise to your routine. You have the possibility of going walking, biking, roller blading. swimming or you might find some gentle exercise like Tai Chi or yoga particularly healing.  It’s nice just to move around and find that the body likes this kind of exercise and can adapt to this new place of strength. Enjoying the exercise you do may help you stay healthier longer. This kind of change, at the right time, can increase your well-being.

Breaking up a routine

Other seasons of life bring their own demands. It is nice to be flexible and to accept the changes that make life better for you and for those around you. Spontaneity can bring excitement, hope and friendship. It can support a playful time period and give us a reminder that the universe is bigger and more generous than we think. Starting your day in a different way a couple of times a week could give you a wake up call. Things could be more exciting than you think. I love to call up a friend and right away meet for coffee. This to me is a wonderful freedom and shows the supportive miracle friendships can bring.

Whether to change or stay the same is the question.

The answer is up to you. Consider balance in your answer to this dilemma. If you have changed recently maybe now you will stay the same. If you’ve stayed the same maybe now you will try a change. Keeping in a momentum where we are gentle with ourselves and our changes helps us feel the continuity of our lives. When changes are prepared for, the change makes sense and can be incorporated easier. What kind of exercise is your favourite and is it the right season in your life to give it a try?