I read an unusual idea lately from an author I frequently read named SARK. She said something about that if she forgives her mother then what will she do with all of her time? This is interesting because once we forgive people we no longer negotiate with them in our minds. We no longer hold bad moods in their name. We no longer put them down in front of others and we no longer criticize them. Once we forgive people that’s all. We just live and let live.
So what happens after forgiveness. I often assume that the bond gets closer but maybe that’s where things might stay the same but the negative feelings are less and grudges are no longer held. At this point their is extra time and space. This would make many people happy. It would give more possibilities of a life lived well.
So just what is a life lived well… what happens when we no longer complain about people? A variety of things could happen like good experiences, good relationships and good education. These all aren’t good unless we put effort into these aspects of our lives. We can plan, reflect, learn communication skill, learn to increase our love and we can read, read and read. We can apply what we learn to our lives and can find that we can live with more honesty, depth and compassion. If we’re not held back by non-forgiveness we can grow.
What a beautiful and important part of the human existance is the concept of growth. We learn from our past and we use this knowledge in our present and in planning for our future. We no longer make the same mistakes… we go past our previous limitations and we find that some of the waters are smooth and meant for us to sail in.
There are experiences we just can’t have if we are hurting about our pains. Some of us have a great deal of pain and of bitterness and of sadness. By sharing a little at a time we can release some of this hardship and find ourselves once again experiencing good feelings. After forgiveness I think there are a whole lot of good feelings and this includes laughter. I have found myself laughing at the many jokes and idiosyncracies of life and so I feel I must be reaching a greater feeling of having forgiven others.
People can only do what they are capable of at the time. Instead of so many expectations I have goals. That puts the ball more into my court and I am able to let others do things on their time schedules. I don’t feel as dissapointed or as forgotten. I feel like I influence the people, places and things in my life and I am ready to find out what happens after forgiveness. Some weight is lifted. I have gained some understanding and I have more willingness to see what it’s like in someone elses shoes. Fogive, forget and move on in your life to the adventures and experiences that you’ve always wanted to do.
Posted on July 18, 2012, in Balance, Happiness, Self Esteem and Positivity, New Age Psychology, Relationships and tagged anger management, empowerment, humour, positive thinking, purpose. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.