Sharing your Feelings
Many of us struggle with our emotions. To share our feelings can be a great relief. Sharing feelings isn’t often taught. People are lucky to learn some options and choices related to their feelings. Even just making lists of our feelings can identify what’s going on for us and relieve some pressure.
How do we learn about our feelings?
When I was in grade four I was, in fact, taught to take a look at myself and discover more about me. We filled out sheets that taught us to become more aware of who we were and what was important to us. Something about this teaching was a great joy to me. We could learn about the grand world out there but there was something wonderfully unique about learning about ourselves. I think that’s what expressing our feelings does. It teaches us a little more about who we are and what matters to us.
Now a days I have a sheet with lots of different faces on it. Each face represents a feeling and my counsellor has encouraged me to identify the feelings that I feel. I find that this brings me out of a mood just by naming what I’m going through. We often feel more than one feeling at one time. They can conflict with one another but once they are identified that’s sometimes enough to stop the inner conflict.
How do we express ourselves?
There are many things we can do once we figure out we are feeling difficult emotions. I’ve written in a journal, written a poem, drawn a picture, danced or taken part in other exercise. Sometimes what I choose to do can tell me more about my feelings, like when I write in a journal. At other times, I can work through a feeling by exercising my body until I am tired-out but feel like I’ve had a great work-out. Swimming lengths is a great stress relief.
Just making a list of feelings can move them out of your busy mind to a clear, concise, organized list. This can help reduce negative feelings and lighten your load by getting things down on paper. Somehow this helps because we don’t have to keep thinking of the feelings when we’ve got them in front of us. We can read them if we need to.
What about the good feelings?
Special feelings are a joy to have. When you love someone sometimes you feel a warmth in your heart that is wonderful. When you care for people sometimes you feel endearment towards them. When you see some beautiful art you might feel elated, that you have risen above your difficult circumstances. These special feelings are a great part of the human experience. I can think of nothing that brings about more positive feelings than music. It is great to have time with songs and sometimes a song will say exactly how you feel. This can make you feel good too!
What is your favourite feeling? Who brings out the best feelings in you? What are your main consistent feelings? Remember to help yourself feel the positive feelings. We can make wise choices that lead to positive emotions. Some people say, if you just keep smiling, you will sooner or later feel happy. Give yourself a chance.
Posted on June 3, 2013, in Balance, Depression, anger and negativity, Emotions, Happiness, Self Esteem and Positivity, mental health, mental illness, New Age Psychology, youth and tagged acceptance, anger management, empowerment, healing, mental health, music appreciation, positive thinking, self help, self-knowledge. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.