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The Recovery Booklet for Mental Health Update

Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Photo Credit ©2012 Kelly Babcock

This book has been out in print all summer now. Fifty copies have been sold to the public and the hospital has found a fund to purchase one hundred copies. I am on a bit of a roller coaster of happiness, loss and success. Read the rest of this entry

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Why did I write a book?

Let The Feelings Go.

May light and love bless you! © 2012 Kelly Babcock

Reading books has been a hobby of mine for most of my life. I’ve read a lot of self-help books especially. This may give you a hint of why I wanted to write my own book.

It all started back in 1999. I was hanging out with people who were interacting in spiritual ways where they were giving messages back and forth from a greater source of love and light. I was glad that they were kind messages and some of them were very insightful.  Read the rest of this entry

A Walk With Mental Health Challenges

Choose a good path on your journey.

Keep walking on and on!
Photo credit ©2012 Kelly Babcock

First off, I have to decide to go for a walk. I often feel like a walk but am filled with trepidation about what the outcome might be. I like the fresh air and the beautiful flowers in people’s gardens. I like seeing people out and about. I like the feeling I have after a walk when I feel like I’ve done something important and good for me. Read the rest of this entry

Book Launch Party For Mental Health

Flowers Grow and People Do Too

Let’s look on the bright side!

I didn’t know how it was going to go. I didn’t know who would be there. Thunderstorms preceded the entertainment. Would people still come? Read the rest of this entry

Dancing Poems

Poetry is like sunshine. © 2012 Kelly Babcock

Poetry is like sunshine.
© 2012 Kelly Babcock

To write a poem that helps people think through an issues is rewarding and motivating. To write a poem that helps people sense a touch of Heaven is also nice. To write poems that inspire others to write poems, now that is the first place ribbon. Read the rest of this entry

Inner Parents

(Due to Hlightenoliday Monday my blog came out on Tuesday morning)

Put away the cheese. Straighten up the fridge. Be in by 10. Clean up the bathroom. Don’t eat anymore butter tarts. You reach a point where when you leave home it can be a relief. Finally, if you want you can eat from the peanut butter jar. You can have your music on late at night, and best of all you can talk on the phone whenever you want. Read the rest of this entry

Enough of Decluttering; Use What you Have – (bonus post for April)

There are great works of literature helping us to discover how we can best declutter. We can have less. We can simplify. We can give our things to others in need. Basically we can live in an easier way with less stuff around us.  Okay. After we’ve done this it can seem a little desolate, a little empty, a little barren. Read the rest of this entry

Yin and Yang; Stillness and Activity

Healing means coming to an understanding of an issue. Healing means living well despite problems. To me this involves consciously creating a balance in my life between activity and stillness.

The yin and yang flow is one of masculine and feminine. It is part of the day and night opposites of sunlight and moonlight. I want to discuss one aspect of this balance. This is the two states that include ‘change’ and ‘staying the same’ as they relate to wellness. The greater natural world around us finds a balance and so can we!

A chronic illness can cause too much pain. Improving the patterns of health can mean adapting to change. Sometimes people may feel better to stay at the level of health they find themselves in even if they are quite sick. At other times they may feel strong enough and hopeful enough to try and increase their stamina, endurance and strength.

When is it time for change?

A person may go from fairly inactive to active. A person may start replacing sugar snacks with fruit. A person might rest a lot and then join a new choir. A person may read a lot and then participate in an acting club. Change can motivate, invigorate and stimulate us. For the person dealing with illness change becomes a little more complex as aches, pains, moods and stamina have to be taken into consideration. Sometimes it’s all one can do to just stay the same.

Health returns in seasons….

If it is like a Winter season in your life it may be time to try and move more slowly to protect the gains you have previously made and not make any big changes. It is good to move slowly to help you settle and stay with the progress you have made over the past while. Concentrating on keeping to a routine at this time and accomplishing the regular tasks is important. There is a rhythm to this kind of living that gives nourishment and strength. When you have a bad day you don’t have to think too hard because you know your daily schedule, you know what lies ahead.

As we feel more able to do things it may seem more like Spring. We do want to enjoy some of the fruits of our labour.  Some of us have worked so hard to become more well with medicine, good food, rest and nourishment. At this time it’s nice to introduce more activity into your life. For some, this may be adding exercise to your routine. You have the possibility of going walking, biking, roller blading. swimming or you might find some gentle exercise like Tai Chi or yoga particularly healing.  It’s nice just to move around and find that the body likes this kind of exercise and can adapt to this new place of strength. Enjoying the exercise you do may help you stay healthier longer. This kind of change, at the right time, can increase your well-being.

Breaking up a routine

Other seasons of life bring their own demands. It is nice to be flexible and to accept the changes that make life better for you and for those around you. Spontaneity can bring excitement, hope and friendship. It can support a playful time period and give us a reminder that the universe is bigger and more generous than we think. Starting your day in a different way a couple of times a week could give you a wake up call. Things could be more exciting than you think. I love to call up a friend and right away meet for coffee. This to me is a wonderful freedom and shows the supportive miracle friendships can bring.

Whether to change or stay the same is the question.

The answer is up to you. Consider balance in your answer to this dilemma. If you have changed recently maybe now you will stay the same. If you’ve stayed the same maybe now you will try a change. Keeping in a momentum where we are gentle with ourselves and our changes helps us feel the continuity of our lives. When changes are prepared for, the change makes sense and can be incorporated easier. What kind of exercise is your favourite and is it the right season in your life to give it a try?

Looking Back on My Own Teenage Years

As a teenager, I forged out on my own with some of my activities. Involvement with other activities were influenced by friends, parents and teachers.But what helped me to be a young person that was successful? My parents helped me learn about the themes in my life that would be important. The variety of exciting activities I took part in as a teen help me be the person I am today. Finally, private time with quiet activities was also significant for me. Learning about my purpose, active activities and quiet activities created a meaningful experience in my youth. Read the rest of this entry

Solutions Verses Problems In Mental Health

lightenIt is the season for mental health advice. There are blogs, self-help books and magazines all around. It looks as though most of the information is about problems. The description of problems often includes labels and their definitions of different mental illnesses. They don’t even know exactly what mental health label each of us is dealing with?

Peter Pan convinces the children to fly by thinking happy thoughts. Maybe this fairy tale has a grain of wisdom in it. I think happy thoughts are beneficial to the child in all of us because even though we don’t physically fly, we can lighten our burdens with a positive outlook. It is my suggestion that people talking about positive thinking should talk about mental health problems less often and about mental wellness more often.

A Light In The Distance

When I began using coping skills to deal with mental health dilemmas I became smarter and funnier and more present. It occurred to me with my new skills there could be names for genius levels of thinking and problem solving and brain storming. Names to describe the good mental health. I’d like to call a person who looks at things differently, a person with advanced perspectives in wellness. I’d like to call a person with skills in brain storming, a person with advanced idea generation abilities. These are just a couple of the ways skills could be identified. Focusing on what we do well may indeed increase our abilities to do those things even better.

Striving towards something is satisfying. We can set our goals and priorities and stick to the course with our wellness. Yes, I’ve found this works, but we have to be careful when we travel this road. Different issues can come up even when we have a more positive outlook on mental health. We have to try not to get ahead of ourselves! The body assimilates information and emotions and learning in ways that all work together. If the person is not ready for advanced knowledge emotionally, their system may break down.

Balancing Mental Health

This is where I had trouble. I tried to become whole and complete and full of assimilated growth all at once in ways that were interesting but weren’t very practical. I had the courage to try something new. I had the positive thinking to get me through the activities. What I didn’t know was my limits, or how these things would affect me. Brain gym was one thing I tried. Too much, too fast, led me on quite a journey of major ups and downs and a lot of disappointments. Visualization led me to increased energy in dreaming and not the experience of putting things into everyday life. Counselling led me to have neat discussions but left me wanting to feel fixed after I expressed myself. Now that their isn’t the pressure of taking part in the actual therapies I can look back and use some of the beneficial parts of these therapies.

Identifying problems is important to some people. With clear ideas of the problems there can be an understanding and even a compassion that allows that problem to dissipate. Many people are glad to finally know what is wrong with them.

Wouldn’t it be nice to finally know what is right with us? How about Getting A’s in the area of mental health that could lead to motivation and inspiration across groups of people. Just what do we do well? Are you organized? Are you good at stress release? Do you care about other people?

Learning Never Ends

Talking about solutions can be pretty motivating in itself. Seeing a difference from one month to the next because of solutions put into practice is even better. Improving skills might feel too much like school, but what if we get to design our courses? It could be fun. We could excel in these courses because we were interested in picking them.

We could even build on our knowledge from when we were kids in school. We could study some more Shakespeare, try our hand at some mathematics and learn some new songs to sing. Who says education must only be for the youth? We could take a night school course. Or just remember the things we liked, keep learning about them.

Mental Wellness

Solutions, positive thinking, goals and education are all ideas for now and the future. They have been used before and can be used again. Let’s not talk as much about mental health problems that make people feel inferior but let’s talk about genius areas of mental health. Let’s face it, a depression or a bout of hallucinations can kick in some pretty amazing skills to help us face those symptoms. Just what are those skills we are learning? Can we take pride in those newly learned skills?

Some of the people I’ve been privileged to know with mental illness have shown these wellness skills. Some are extra-compassionate and excel at curiosity. Self-care is also an area of expertise for others. Humour is a skill some have and use as a great way to reach out.

I’m going to talk to some of my friends about their positive characteristics. The things that help them get through every day life and the things that they are admired for. These are solutions to problems. Our strengths help us with our weaknesses! It is time to listen, look and act on solutions, so more people can feel better and find relief from the focus on mental illness. Let’s talk mental wellness!

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