You know it. I’m sure you do. You are just about to introduce yourself to someone and you think, I’m not good enough. You become aware of something in your past that was hurtful and embarrassing and somehow that makes you less valuable. At the current time you are unable to start a friendship with this new interesting person that could bring much happiness into your life. You remembered a flaw in the midst of your perfection.
Many of us struggle with our emotions. To share our feelings can be a great relief. Sharing feelings isn’t often taught. People are lucky to learn some options and choices related to their feelings. Even just making lists of our feelings can identify what’s going on for us and relieve some pressure. Read the rest of this entry
Schizo – what every you call it!
You might wonder what schizophrenia is and what are some of the issues that people with it might have. Today I want to dedicate this blog to issues and casual information about schizophrenia.
First of all, I’ll call it the ‘S’ illness because for personal reasons it would be difficult to say schizophrenia every time I had to say it. So the positive symptoms of the ‘S’ illness involve sensing things that aren’t there, or having body sensations that are not real, or hearing and seeing things that most people don’t. On the other hand what’s called the negative symptoms can involve a numbed out appearance, and emotions that are dull and a need to withdraw. All of these symptoms can come singley or several at a time and can really be a pain when you want to live a successful and productive life.
To accept an ill state of mental health is a difficult thing to do. First of all who wants to lose. I mean, who wants to be the one with the short straw. Don’t pick on me! Don’t call me the sickest!
The Grief Cycle
Acceptance doesn’t mean believing less of ourselves but it does mean being honest and logical about the situation we are in. I think other stages in handling grief are important in coping with illnesses. This involves anger, bartering, depression and yes finally acceptance and then going on to teach others. These stages educate us by forcing us to use tools so we can gain strength. Acceptance on the other hand is more of a stabilizing part of the cycle. We can stay in this place for longer. Through using skills learned from the grief process we can come to a place of homoeostasis in our acceptance. Read the rest of this entry
In part I, we discussed letting go of negativity while embracing more positive energy. A number of tools were discussed that help me and could inspire others. It’s good to be aware of your own tools for raising positivity.
Qualities and Skills We Share
Letting go of what doesn’t work encompasses some forgiveness work. Most of all, I must forgive myself for having things not turn out exactly as I wanted. This requires flexibility. There are many positive outcomes to forgiveness when we are flexible. Once we let go and forgive we can be influenced by the great qualities our friends have cultivated in themselves. A person can inspire with the qualities they share.
A friend talks about comfort with herself. After I talk with her I sense a feeling of comfort too. Another friend uses flexibility in a skillful way. I feel a sense of possibility. Yet another friend uses consistency. I am motivated by this. Forgiveness has opened my heart in my friendships. Read the rest of this entry
There has been a lot of talk about letting go. Talk of letting go of emotion stirred up through difficult interaction. When we let go of the activities that don’t pan out we can feel stronger, yet it can be difficult to let go of friends who we have grown apart from.
What does letting go mean for the person who is a mental health survivor?
To me it means I let go of the negative talk, the aggressive talk, the demeaning talk I have heard. It means the things I’m letting go of are like the landscape I drive through and see pass by the car as I go on to my destination. I too, will try to let yesterdays negativity go by, like the gobbledy gook it is, and I will come to this next day with a fresh face. But, does this mean my fresh face has to deal with more negativity, aggression and shaming. I hope not. At this point, hope is not all I can do. I can talk things over with people, I can use one of my coping skills, I can do some writing. This involves trusting those things I do to keeping my energies higher and this includes highlights in my hair, invigorating massages, and relaxing arometherapy and in another light helping others and doing chores. Read the rest of this entry
Views From A Guitar Playing Music Writer and ADHD Sufferer
Music may well be among the first of my memories. I have a vivid recollection of sitting in a booth in a restaurant in the early sixties. I would have been less than four years old, but I remember that there was one of those table-top jukebox selectors on our table. My mother stuck a nickle into the slot (yes, a nickle, it was the sixties and a dime would buy a gallon of gas back then) and played The Singing Nuns 1963 hit, “Dominique.” What I learned that day in seeing my mother smile as she listened to her new favourite was that if I could make music I could please my mother. My life has been a quest, in one way or another, to please my mother. And so I’ve made music a large, though largely unprofessional, part of my life. It brings me the same happiness it brought her. But how? Read the rest of this entry