Whether you have a mental illness or not, it boosts the immune system to hear nice things and to participate in small acts of kindness. These activities can make a day brighter, can help your self esteem and finally can bring out more positive energy. Kindness helps you to look on the bright side! Read the rest of this entry
To write a poem that helps people think through an issues is rewarding and motivating. To write a poem that helps people sense a touch of Heaven is also nice. To write poems that inspire others to write poems, now that is the first place ribbon. Read the rest of this entry
As a teenager, I forged out on my own with some of my activities. Involvement with other activities were influenced by friends, parents and teachers.But what helped me to be a young person that was successful? My parents helped me learn about the themes in my life that would be important. The variety of exciting activities I took part in as a teen help me be the person I am today. Finally, private time with quiet activities was also significant for me. Learning about my purpose, active activities and quiet activities created a meaningful experience in my youth. Read the rest of this entry
This is Part I of a blog about a program that I worked on with teenagers a couple years ago. It would be a waste to not share what knowledge we gained. In this part you will discover why we created the program. You will also learn some of the things we accomplished with our talks. The intriguing information of what makes some of our teenagers moody and sad is revealed. It’s not easy to work with teens but they are important people that, as you will see, can express themselves if given a chance.
Differences Between Adults and Teens
As an adult I have my own style of living that youth aren’t likely to have due to societal norms for each age group. There are also of course school rules and parental guidelines. Youth, however, are better at some things. Youth are good at creating, important tight friendships and neat social circles that aren’t part of my adult experience. Youth are trying to have their voices heard, and yet fit in at the same time.
Friendships in the teenage stage are important but even friends have problems, and they need a shoulder to lean on. This is a song that friends of mine, arm and arm sang together when we were teenagers, “Lean on me, when you’re not strong, And I’ll be your friend, I’ll help you carry on.” by Mr. Bill Withers. Where can people nowadays find that shoulder to lean on, but more importantly where can youth find people to lighten their burdens?
To accept an ill state of mental health is a difficult thing to do. First of all who wants to lose. I mean, who wants to be the one with the short straw. Don’t pick on me! Don’t call me the sickest!
The Grief Cycle
Acceptance doesn’t mean believing less of ourselves but it does mean being honest and logical about the situation we are in. I think other stages in handling grief are important in coping with illnesses. This involves anger, bartering, depression and yes finally acceptance and then going on to teach others. These stages educate us by forcing us to use tools so we can gain strength. Acceptance on the other hand is more of a stabilizing part of the cycle. We can stay in this place for longer. Through using skills learned from the grief process we can come to a place of homoeostasis in our acceptance. Read the rest of this entry
There has been a lot of talk about letting go. Talk of letting go of emotion stirred up through difficult interaction. When we let go of the activities that don’t pan out we can feel stronger, yet it can be difficult to let go of friends who we have grown apart from.
What does letting go mean for the person who is a mental health survivor?
To me it means I let go of the negative talk, the aggressive talk, the demeaning talk I have heard. It means the things I’m letting go of are like the landscape I drive through and see pass by the car as I go on to my destination. I too, will try to let yesterdays negativity go by, like the gobbledy gook it is, and I will come to this next day with a fresh face. But, does this mean my fresh face has to deal with more negativity, aggression and shaming. I hope not. At this point, hope is not all I can do. I can talk things over with people, I can use one of my coping skills, I can do some writing. This involves trusting those things I do to keeping my energies higher and this includes highlights in my hair, invigorating massages, and relaxing arometherapy and in another light helping others and doing chores. Read the rest of this entry
Views From A Guitar Playing Music Writer and ADHD Sufferer
Music may well be among the first of my memories. I have a vivid recollection of sitting in a booth in a restaurant in the early sixties. I would have been less than four years old, but I remember that there was one of those table-top jukebox selectors on our table. My mother stuck a nickle into the slot (yes, a nickle, it was the sixties and a dime would buy a gallon of gas back then) and played The Singing Nuns 1963 hit, “Dominique.” What I learned that day in seeing my mother smile as she listened to her new favourite was that if I could make music I could please my mother. My life has been a quest, in one way or another, to please my mother. And so I’ve made music a large, though largely unprofessional, part of my life. It brings me the same happiness it brought her. But how? Read the rest of this entry
Sometimes it’s the right time to forgive. It’s time to put aside grudges, let go of expectations and feel your heart beating wildly when you hear the word forgive. I believe we have like an in-box category of items to forgive and as it starts to fill up we feel more angry or afraid or hurt. If we regularly take a look at that in-box category we can keep the items down in number thereby leaving more room to live our lives with positive emotions, feelings and a sense of trust.
Forgiveness can help us with our health and lead others to try and forgive as well. If we forgive the little things then it becomes easier to forgive the bigger things. Forgiving can lead to greater feelings of love. With abilities to love in a variety of ways we are showing eachother that we deserve attention and kindness and that we care about one another.
Forgiveness helps us with our health because in areas of our body we carry with us the hurt and pain from previous interactions. Once we are able to forgive and see that people are just human and that we push people’s buttons and they push ours. We make mistakes and so do others and we all have our own opinions. Once we see that people are just doing the best at the place where they are then we know that even our bodies loosen up and we can feel healthier and happier and more willing to be kind, friendly and gentle.
Once we have forgiven we can spend time thinking about other things. It is important to ponder what happens after forgiveness. We can see some aspects of people that was covered by our hurt or anger and we can see the ways that people are so interesting, vulnerable and human. We can experiment with our love and the way it affects different people in a variety of ways. We can feel loved and happy for the good ways we are treated. I’m sure there is much more we can do once we have forgiven but that’s up to you and me to think of after we have let go of our angers and hurts and feel the grace of forgiveness.