Put away the cheese. Straighten up the fridge. Be in by 10. Clean up the bathroom. Don’t eat anymore butter tarts. You reach a point where when you leave home it can be a relief. Finally, if you want you can eat from the peanut butter jar. You can have your music on late at night, and best of all you can talk on the phone whenever you want. Read the rest of this entry
We were up there, back stage, waiting for our turn to perform, repeating lines, mouthing words, going over and over our monolouges. Nervous anticipation wasn’t all that was in the air but a kind of magic that only comes on that final night when the audience is full and is with us as we presented our stories. Read the rest of this entry
This is Part I of a blog about a program that I worked on with teenagers a couple years ago. It would be a waste to not share what knowledge we gained. In this part you will discover why we created the program. You will also learn some of the things we accomplished with our talks. The intriguing information of what makes some of our teenagers moody and sad is revealed. It’s not easy to work with teens but they are important people that, as you will see, can express themselves if given a chance.
Differences Between Adults and Teens
As an adult I have my own style of living that youth aren’t likely to have due to societal norms for each age group. There are also of course school rules and parental guidelines. Youth, however, are better at some things. Youth are good at creating, important tight friendships and neat social circles that aren’t part of my adult experience. Youth are trying to have their voices heard, and yet fit in at the same time.
Friendships in the teenage stage are important but even friends have problems, and they need a shoulder to lean on. This is a song that friends of mine, arm and arm sang together when we were teenagers, “Lean on me, when you’re not strong, And I’ll be your friend, I’ll help you carry on.” by Mr. Bill Withers. Where can people nowadays find that shoulder to lean on, but more importantly where can youth find people to lighten their burdens?
Receiving Help Is The First Step!
There is a popular saying that goes “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.” My interpretation of this is that you can provide someone with what they need but you can’t make them benefit from it unless they agree or accept the help.There are many styles of helping people. The first step is to provide people with what they need and that is just one approach. For people with mental illness this may mean being given access to a counselor, a self-help book or an exercise opportunity. Read the rest of this entry
There has been a lot of talk about letting go. Talk of letting go of emotion stirred up through difficult interaction. When we let go of the activities that don’t pan out we can feel stronger, yet it can be difficult to let go of friends who we have grown apart from.
What does letting go mean for the person who is a mental health survivor?
To me it means I let go of the negative talk, the aggressive talk, the demeaning talk I have heard. It means the things I’m letting go of are like the landscape I drive through and see pass by the car as I go on to my destination. I too, will try to let yesterdays negativity go by, like the gobbledy gook it is, and I will come to this next day with a fresh face. But, does this mean my fresh face has to deal with more negativity, aggression and shaming. I hope not. At this point, hope is not all I can do. I can talk things over with people, I can use one of my coping skills, I can do some writing. This involves trusting those things I do to keeping my energies higher and this includes highlights in my hair, invigorating massages, and relaxing arometherapy and in another light helping others and doing chores. Read the rest of this entry
Views From A Guitar Playing Music Writer and ADHD Sufferer
Music may well be among the first of my memories. I have a vivid recollection of sitting in a booth in a restaurant in the early sixties. I would have been less than four years old, but I remember that there was one of those table-top jukebox selectors on our table. My mother stuck a nickle into the slot (yes, a nickle, it was the sixties and a dime would buy a gallon of gas back then) and played The Singing Nuns 1963 hit, “Dominique.” What I learned that day in seeing my mother smile as she listened to her new favourite was that if I could make music I could please my mother. My life has been a quest, in one way or another, to please my mother. And so I’ve made music a large, though largely unprofessional, part of my life. It brings me the same happiness it brought her. But how? Read the rest of this entry
If music hath charms to sooth the savage breast, play on. Although that’s a bit of a mix … what we mean is that music is such a universal in our world that many great words have been penned in its praise.
Every culture we know has developed music in some form or another and there must be a reason for its global acceptance. From the moods of Beethoven to the wildly expressive Janice Joplin, from its early percussive beginnings to current electronic generation, music has been dressing for many emotional wounds, has salved many a desparate soul. Listening, creating and performing music are all effective in returning us to our belief in valuing humanity and refortifying our inner reserves.
There is the phenomenon of imagination and then with exaggeration you can come up with some wonderful stories and thoughts. Just what happens when these imaginings get ahead of you and you are in a whole big plot of spies and paranoia? Just what happens when the exaggerations makes your problems spin over and over in your head until even friends seem like enemies? Just what happens when your wonderful stories take on a life of their own and the characters start talking and the story seems bigger than you?
All of these schizo symptoms sadly have happened to me and friends of mine. There is hope though. They can be stopped with some good humour, a little change in perspective and smart use of metaphors. Read the rest of this entry